NEVER put yourself down again!

Have you ever noticed how insidious our brains can be? That voice in our head like the devil on our shoulder or the inner bully who is SO god damn hard on us.

“This won’t work”
“Remember you failed in the past”
“People are going to think you’re weird”
“People will laugh at you”
“No one cares”

That’s one I hear a lot “No one cares”… it seems as though any time I go to do something that I’m passionate about, that I know will help people solve their problems, this little voice in head says “But no one cares Carly” and then I get this sinking feeling in my stomach like, oh yeah, what’s the point in even trying because no one gives a shit anyway. No one is going to listen or invest in your thing, why even try?

Somewhere along my life I picked up, or created the story that no one cares! 

But what really lies underneath that story is “I’m not good enough” “I’m scared that I will be rejected”

I want acceptance and love as much as the next person.

I want validation.

I want to create something and for it to be a sell out success the first swing of the bat. (Even though I’m now onto the 200th swing of the bat)

In the past 24 hours I felt myself spiral into an old negative thought pattern that goes a little some thing like this:

“What the hell am I even doing?”
“Who am I?”
“What do I do?”
“Maybe I should do something different”
“I’m not good enough/qualified enough/have enough experience for this”

Oh yeah Carly, good one!

11 years of intense daily study, plus your own personal journey, transformation, plus working with clients and friends to transform their business and life still isn’t good enough for you?

If that’s not good enough then what the hell ever will be?

Oh that’s right… you want OTHERS to validate you.

You want other people to tell you how great you are…

What about the fact your client said she wouldn’t have a business if it wasn’t for you.
What about the fact your friend said you transformed their life and it wouldn’t be where it is now without your help.
What about the fact you’re raising 3 young children ON YOUR OWN and still releasing programs, creating content and doing the inner self love work.

When will it ever be good enough for you?
When are you finally going to accept that you were born for this?
When are you going to see that your whole life has been building towards this, that everything you’ve been through, every mistake and every triumph have made you the person you are today with the dreams, the desires, the big vision for your life.

When will it ever be good enough?

Do you want to be dragged through the mud some more? Do you want to prove yourself more? Do you want more challenges, more obstacles just so you can prove to … whoever the fuck it is.. that you’re finally good enough, finally worthy enough to do what’s in your heart.

To lead others to their truth, to share your story, to speak your message, to sing, to create, to perform, to be the shining star you were born to be.

When will it ever be enough?

Because the truth is.. it’s been there all along.

You’ve always been good enough.

You’ve always been talented enough and WORTHY, so god damn worthy.

But you couldn’t see it, you could only see why you were a big fat failure and how… no one cares.

The thing is, that you get to decide when it’s time. You get to decide when it’s time to live out the vision of your life. You could have done it last year, or 10 years ago. It was all there inside of you.

You can also wait 20 years if you want to?

But I don’t think you do… I think you’re ready now.

I think you’re just pissed off enough at your own bullshit.

I think you know too much now.

I think you’re ready to explode on to the scene.

to claim your place..

to claim your vision..

To get the fuck on with it NOW.

Because it’s going to be a hell of a ride, it’s going to be thrilling, exciting, messy, fun, disappointing, excruciating at times… but at least…

AT LEAST… you’re being true to your vision.

At least you can look yourself in the eye, even if you are battered a bruised, tired and weak.

At least you’re not wasting away.

Dying with your music still inside as Wayne Dyer would say.

At least you will be leaving your mark on this world so that when you’re not here anymore…

Your legacy lives on, through your children and grandchildren.

Gone but never forgotten.

That’s the dream.

That’s the vision.

To make a difference.

Gone but never forgotten.

To make my children proud.

To show them the truth.

To listen to their own guidance.

To love themselves fully.

That’s why I even created 30 days of happy.

This is what I want my children to know, to study, to live by. If they choose of course.

They have their own path just as you have YOUR own path and I bet if you’re reading this right now you needed to hear it too.

You have a legacy to leave behind.

You have a vision to live out.

You have gifts to express, to make this world a better place.

You’re worthy now and you don’t need anyones permission to be great, to speak your truth and live your vision.

Do it now, you’re ready.

If you need to turn up your confidence, self belief, motivation and turn down the negative chatter that tries to hold you down then take a look at 30 Days Of Happy, it’s my proudest creation to date.

Much love,
Carly xo